Marriage Counseling

Creating the love you want

Relationship and marriage counseling is my forte and passion. More than half of the people I work with come to me for help with their relationships. One of the questions I’m most frequently asked is, “How do you work?” The simple answer is that working with a coach, or counselor, or anyone, for that matter, is about creating a relationship. My aim in all coaching situations is for people to feel understood, respected, and motivated. I encourage you to come in for an initial session, experience how I interact with you and notice how helpful my information is for you. My intention for you in that first session is that you experience meaningful insight. Expect to leave with an improved understanding of the problems that have held you back and with clear ideas of what it will take for you to create the love you seek. After that it’s a matter of continuing to uncover and correct ineffective beliefs about relationships, setting and achieving goals you set, and implementing tools that will work for you and will become permanent in your life.

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Your first session will have a strong and positive impact on your relationship. The initial session for couples is two hours and I offer it at a discounted rate ($80). (512) 653-4316 E-Mail David Cantu
Following is a sampling of the ideas to which you’ll be introduced.

Responsibility

Quite often the mistake we make in relationships is that we assume the attitude “I’m right and if you will only listen to me and do what I say, then all our problems will go away.” In other words, we tend to blame our difficulties on the other person. The alternative is humility and responsibility. We are far more effective in creating the love we want by first asking ourselves “What am I doing that makes our partnership more difficult?” Another assumption we frequently make that’s not helpful is “I’ve done everything possible and nothing works with my spouse; she just doesn’t get it!” A far better perspective is “I haven’t been effective, how can I be different, and what can I do to create a different result?”

Self Acceptance

A second belief system I frequently encounter is the feeling of worthlessness. Somewhere in childhood people sometimes experience and unconsciously accept the notion that they aren’t valuable or lovable. As a result, they may be particularly sensitive in relationships and have attitudes of victimization. They are likely even to gravitate to the kind of person with whom they feel “less” or “incapable.” Discovering your self worth and believing in your inherent value is crucial to a loving marriage. The alternative to an attitude of worthlessness is confidence and a crucial step to take in this direction is assertiveness. Being direct doesn’t mean being mean, you can be both kind and strong at the same time. I can help you accomplish this important realization through coaching.

We Offer Much More

You will be introduced to many other helpful ideas in a coaching session. Read Articles I’ve written on Relationships here. Also see Coaching and Counseling Approach. Expect to feel heard, understood, appreciated and inspired!